Today is the day of my last final! Finally! This semester has just been too long.
Whether that toxic environment is school or work, we all know that a toxic environment is draining. And sometimes we cannot afford to leave the situations we are in quite literally.
Leaving would cost you more money than it would to stay and finish the program. For those of you who can relate to that dilemma, mental sanity or a big heaping financial hole of debt, here’s what I have to say to you.
Minimize your time in this environment.
Just like with toxic people, don’t be there any longer than you have to. If you are paid for a 9 to 5. Be there from 9 to 5 and zoom out as soon as that clock hits 5 pm.
We can’t do this all the time. But definitely take advantage when you can.
I know that it’s hard. It takes so much not tell your co-workers what you really think of them. If only you could pause time so that you could let out all your frustrations then, re-play the situation when you’re ready to respond professionally again.
Leave your troubles at the door.
When you get home from school, drop both everything that happened and your backpack at the door. There is no use in re-living the situation over and over again. You just raise your blood pressure for no reason.
Focus on what your gratitude.
What are you grateful for despite your circumstances? Are you grateful that you were able to survive this far in the program without going insane? It’s hard to get to the top in an environment that isolates you.
The fact that you made it this far shows great resilience on your part. Turn your worst days into a lesson learned.
A bad boss will teach you what not to do and how to communicate with others. A bad professor will teach you how to research the information that you need.
Then, after you’ve found out what you can get from this situation, vent your frustrations!
Gossiping and venting are two different things and one is more toxic than the other. One way to make sure your venting is productive is to wait it out a little bit. Feel out your emotions and the situation.
Venting on a clear head can actually make you realize what you need to do to get through this toxic situation until you can finally afford to leave.
Support the people who are in this toxic situation with you.
Nothing says comradery more than surviving a toxic environment together. There’s no need for you to contribute more toxicity to an already toxic situation.
While you may feel like there’s no harm in a little bit more toxicity when you’re already drowning in negative emotions, some positivity helps.
Be the breath of fresh air. Supporting your colleagues gives them hope and it will also make you feel good. People tend to feel better when they help others.
Let the people you work the closest with know how they can make the work environment better for everyone. Be tactful and professional with your suggestions.
Constructive criticism is something that a lot of people fail at. Remember there is a difference between constructive criticism and tearing someone down.
I know it’s hard. But try to do your best everyday and remember that you have a team behind you.
Realize that you may not be able to control the situation, but you can control how you react. When the class and the professors give you anxiety, prepare yourself mentally and intellectually so that you can minimize the anxiety you get.
Recite your affirmations to yourself daily.
You are free. You are happy. You are anxiety-free. You can do anything that you are prepared for.
You can overcome all situations that befall you. You are resilient. You are strong. You are loved. You are supported.
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