Stop acting like everything is okay. If you are one of those people who acts like they have it all together, this post is for you. It’s okay to be human and let go sometimes. I’m not just talking to you; I’m talking to myself too.
I’m the main person guilty of this offense. Falling apart is normal. It’s what helps you to stay sane sometimes. Acting like everything is okay does not make you stronger.
Just like how falling apart sometimes doesn’t make you weak. You don’t need to prove to anyone that you are strong. Your job is to make sure that you are at your best for yourself.
And that means both physically and mentally. Some of us look like we are doing alright on the outside. But we are just acting like everything is okay when we are actually dying on the inside. You aren’t fooling anyone but yourself. It’s okay to be vulnerable and fall apart.
What acting like everything is okay looks like?
Well, you already know what this looks like. You’ve been suffering internally. You barely know how to make it day-to-day. But you don’t want to be the rain shower that rains on everyone’s parade. Or you think that everyone has enough problems.
They don’t need you adding your troubles on. That would be selfish. But there comes a point where the façade that you are putting on for the sake of everyone else becomes damaging to you.
And not only you but also the relationships that you have with others. Your relationship starts to become stiff and unreal. You are not showing the real you and how you truly feel.
Every day you are struggling to be your best and look like you have everything under control. But in your mind, you are failing miserably. Everyone thinks that everything is okay and that you are okay. And you’re letting them believe that everything is okay.
You are doing a great job at acting but how will acting like everything is okay affect you in the future? What are the consequences of your actions?
What are the consequences of acting like everything is okay?
The consequences of your actions may seem harmless at first. But you are really creating a hole for yourself. When does the act become too much?
They say smiling and pretending to find joy can help you through hard times, but you’ve taken it to a whole new level. You’ve mastered acting but the effects of pretending never became real.
You never found the joy and the acting has just become exhausting. You are making yourself more and more tired. Do you realize how relieving it feels to let go? It’s like releasing the breath that you never realized you were holding.
You keep running from your problems by acting everything is okay. But don’t you realize that it will catch up with you sooner or later. And trust me, it won’t be any more pleasant than it was before when it catches up with you later. It might even get worse.
Face your feelings and your troubles head-on. Let people know that you are struggling. There are people who want to help you. Don’t let the acting swallow you.
What should you do instead?
Not just with others but with yourself. Sometimes when you are out there pretending, its really all about lying to yourself. Because you don’t want to face the fact that the added workload of the promotion you wanted so much is wearing you down.
You don’t want to seem ungrateful. You worked so hard for this promotion and you wanted it so much. So, to admit to yourself that maybe this promotion was not for you is devastating.
It’s like admitting your whole life is wrong. Now you may have to even re-route your entire life and think about where you really want to go with your career. Do you have to start all over again? That’s a scary thought.
Ask for help.
We cannot do everything. We all have our weaknesses and no matter how great we may want to seem. We all need help every now and then. Suck up your pride and ask for help.
If the workload is too much, someone may be able to help you. If you can’t be everywhere at once, there might be a friend who can help you get close enough. Your workload does not always have to be this much. You can ask for help.
Talk to someone.
You know who your support group is. Even if they can’t help you do certain tasks, they can be a listening ear. And sometimes a listening ear is all it takes to re-energize and re-motivate you.
Your support group is not going to kick you when your down. That’s why you chose them to be a part of your support group. It’s okay to let down the façade in front of them and stop acting like everything is okay.
You are not going to rain on their parade. They are your emotional support just as much as you are theirs.
In conclusion, the reason why I wrote this post is that I feel like a lot of us are going around with masks every day. And we forget to take them off when we get home. Acting like everything is okay all the time can be exhausting.
You don’t need to have everything under control all the time. It’s okay to fall apart. Be honest with yourself. How are you feeling? Talk to your support group. That’s why they are your support group.
And make sure that you ask for help every now and then. Asking for help does not make you weak. It makes you human. It’s okay to stop acting like everything is okay all the time.
Your feelings are valid and you are entitled to feel any other way other than happy all the time.
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